Shellyism…
Acceptance or Rejection, all depends on your roots.
You have been created to have the desire to be accepted, to be liked, to feel appreciated. It is a normal part of our human nature. Yet when that desire to be accepted, to be liked, and to feel appreciated doesn’t take place, then rejection can set in. When rejection sets in, your behavior changes, your mindset changes, and your words change.
It becomes a cycle.
One that is continuous.
Unless you are able to recognize it, it can lead to a path of emotional destruction.
Have you been on this cycle? Where you want to be accepted, you want to be liked, you want to be appreciated? I have!
Back in my days of my low self-esteem and my own issues with value and worth, I was on the rat race of trying to be accepted, liked, and appreciated. I made desperate attempts to gain approval and attention by others. I was constantly trying to please others. I did things out of character to try to be included. I put myself in positions that truly I didn’t need to be in—all in the name of acceptance.
It became a cycle.
A continuous one.
As I began to work on my insides, I learned that my root system was bad. At the core, my roots were bad. They were filled with bitterness, lack of worth, and lack of knowing my identity. Because of my bad roots, I produced bad fruit.
Those of you who read my blogposts know I teach and preach on the importance of your “insides.” To get out of my continuous cycle, I had to be intentional in my actions and begin working on my insides. What I learned, the people I was trying so hard to please were doing nothing wrong, it was my own perceptions of my own worth and value that caused my own emotional destruction.
I had to begin to pour truth in from His word rather than what I was living in the world.
I had to be intentional in my own growth in identity.
I had to come against every voice that was telling me I was not enough. I had to come against every whisper that told me I didn’t matter.
I had to change my root system.
Did it take time? Heck yes!
Did it take work? Some of the hardest I have walked through.
But today, I produce good fruit. My root system is healthy. My mind is healthy. My heart is healthy.
If you are walking in rejection—stop today and be intentional.
If you seek out the approval of others for your worth and value—stop and seek Him.
If you need support—get it. There is no shame in that.
May today you take a look at the fruit you produce. Is it good? Is it bad?
Go and #BeTheLight and #BeIntentional